The Secrets Women's infidelity Why and for what Reasons Women Cheat, and how to Recognize it from A to Z ebook

THE SECRETS OF WOMEN’S INFIDELITY

Why and for what Reasons Women Cheat, and how to Recognize it from A to Z

Author:

Kubik Grzegorz

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Number ISBN: 978-83-943305-3-8

Translation: Anna Matuszczak

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Table of contents

1.The reasons for which the women cheat on.

2. The crisis on emotional grounds.

3. The crisis on financial grounds.

4. The crisis on sexual grounds.

5. 11 factors that favour the cheating and make it easier.

6. How to recognize that woman left you emotionally.

7. How to recognize the infidelity, that is, woman’s behavior attesting to the fact that she can be meeting with somebody.

8. The ways in which women cheat.

9. How to cope after being cheated on.

10. How to forgive infidelity.

11. How to arrange your life after being cheated on.

INTRODUCTION

Scientific studies confirm that fidelity in a relationship was recognized as one of the most important features of our "other half". So, one of the most hurtful things that can happen to us while being in a relationship with another person is his or her infidelity. The present times vary considerably from the days of our parents. Our times are dripping with nudity and sex which pours out on us from TV screens and computers. You can see it in the commercials, music videos, newspapers. All this affects male-female relationships. Each betrayal is a drama, a drama of a person who discovers, mostly by a chance, that for so many years he or she has been lied to and cheated on. In the long-standing relationships we get used to our "other half", and the heat of desire inflamed long ago slowly begins to fade… Until it is going to be burst again, unfortunately, by somebody else. The fight of the reason with your heart begins. The reason tells us that after all you know each other „for so many years”, „you have children”, while the heart says quite something else. In this guide I discussed thoroughly and in details the reasons for which the women cheat on. I have presented in here the genesis of a betrayal, where it comes from, what it results from, and what it consists of. So that the reader can easily see the mistakes he made as well as the ones he cannot make in order not to be betrayed. Later in the book, I will discuss the 10 factors that favour the betrayal, and how to recognize that your woman does not love you anymore, and then you will know that you whether you are cheated on or not. This book describes carefully the most characteristic signals and ways of woman’s behaviour, which prove that the woman can have someone. Then I am going to explain how 99% of women are cheating on their men, what they are doing and who offers them help so nobody will know the truth. At the very end of the book I will focus on how your life should look after the betrayal, what to do when you want to forgive and what to do when you want to live.

The book is for the people who are currently in a relationship and suspect their women of infidelity, as well as for those which are not in relationship, or create a happy relationship, so they will know for the future how to recognize a betrayal, to react in time and perhaps even save the relationship. The book is for those who are in a normal relationship and for those who are married. Undoubtedly, males and females differ very much from each other, including the issue of infidelity. Women behave differently and cheat on for other reasons than men. Everything has been written on the basis of my own experience and the observations of my own relationships, as well as the ones of my friends.

THE REASONS FOR WHICH THE WOMEN CHEAT ON

As I mentioned in the introduction the women cheat on differently to the men. In order to become unfaithful to her man or a husband, a woman needs to leave him emotionally. The women, firstly, leave emotionally and then physically by breaking up with him. It happens that before she definitively goes away a lot of time will pass. One of my ex-girlfriends said the following words when she was leaving „But I left you over a year ago”. As she said, during that year our relationship was slowly hitting the bottom line. All signs on Heaven and Earth that something wrong is going on but I underestimated them.

When a woman walks away emotionally from a man she is up to making new friends”. It is easy to recognize such a woman in a shop, on a street, at the party, or at work. Ironically, it is easy to recognize a woman who has somebody from the woman who is single. If she is in love with her man, it is very hard to get to her, and what to say about establishing any closer relation. When a woman walks away emotionally, it may take a very long time, even a few years before she finally leaves the guy. Perhaps she will never leave him, but she will cheat on him regularly. Before she leave him for somebody else, she will make sure that the new guy will fulfill her needs. The woman will have to make a few, even more than a dozen meetings with a potentially new man, to make sure that she can decide on the final step, which is the definite break-up with her present lover. It's just like with the work which no longer gives you so much fun as it used to, over time, you'll want to change it for a better job, more profitable, giving more satisfaction and emotions. However you won’t quit your job unless you find another one, after all, the bills do no pay themselves. You will be searching until you find it. You will be browsing through different offers and proposals, but before you decide on a change you will need to be 100% sure. The same is with the women, they can be stuck in toxic relationships for many years before they finally decide to leave. Nevertheless, before they do it, it is very likely, that they will cheat on their present partners many times. When a woman walks away emotionally from a man she does it mostly because she’s lacking something. The betrayal is often very precisely planned from A to Z. The woman does it very discretely and sometimes one has to hire a private investigator to catch her red-handed. While the men cheat on basing on „the impulse” and they aren’t so discreet as the women. It is very easy to work them out and this is what differs us from women. Women give away as often as men do it if they have a reason for that, but they are very discreet and careful in this, so that their partner will not even know this, neither he will suspect that the love of their life allowed herself for a fling or for a long love affair with another man.

The woman that cheated on her man must have some reasons for that. So she must be unsatisfied on: emotional, sexual, and financial grounds. The problems hidden inside each of these elements are pushing women into the arms of another man. Even though sometimes couples make terrible mistakes they tend to think that when they get married or have a baby „everything is going to change for the better”. However, in the real world it is not possible. Nowadays, the marriage is a brittle institution. A very large number of marriages is settled as the woman moved away emotionally from a man, such a marriage lasts very briefly. When a marriage takes a longer time then the husband and the wife live together like cats and dogs, and they are only with each other because of the children, or „what will people say” and „what the family will say”. In a such an unhappy relationship or a marriage it is very easy for a back-door affair .

THE CRISIS ON EMOTIONAL GROUNDS

The crisis on emotional grounds is one of the main reasons for which the women are starting to go away emotionally from their partners in order to, later, cheat on them, and finally leave them for another man. One of the main causes of such a crisis is also ROUTINE. Women are by nature purely emotional beings and this is often the routine that tells them they miss something. When a woman is missing something, she subconsciously will be searching for this somewhere else. Routine mostly appears in long-standing relationships. It is as if you ate every day your favorite pizza. At the beginning it is „mouth-watering” for you. However, the more often you eat this, the less tastier it becomes, because you can’t still eat the same thing, can you?. Just as it is with music, which at the beginning you liked and listened to it all the time, but after playing it on and on you can hardly bear hearing it again. The same story is with your work. If you keep going to repeat the same things, you could not stand it. What, in your opinion, are the songs that the singers just hate to perform? The songs that became hits and which they are forced to perform constantly at the concerts for many years. They simply hate to do it because with the time it is becoming extremely boring. The same is with a relationship where at the beginning you were using a lot of your creativity and you were doing your best to diversify it in many ways, but the more you saw each other, your dates became less sophisticated. At the beginning your sex was a world championship at which you were going through all that the Kama Sutra has to offer, but as the time went by the sex became rarer and less spontaneous. The woman as an emotional being has to feel. If she only feel one and the same emotion, she is getting bored with it. When a woman gets bored, she starts to look for somebody else. Not immediately, but she begins to turn away her "radars" from you, directing them towards the other guy. The routine can be connected with the man losing his life. What do I mean? Well, I went through this and so many of many do it now that they put a woman on a pedestal like a goddess. She is the whole world. A man can abandon his friends, his passion, and any hobby only to hang out with his lady as often as possible. You perfectly know how it was. At first, the woman likes it because she has the man only for herself, but in the long run he simply becomes boring. I know many men who were in shape before they entered into a relationship, they loved to go to the gym and work out, but after meeting the girl they simply neglected the previous lifestyle. It is enough to see how they look 3 years after getting married? 90% of them do not remind the same guys with the gleam in the eye they used to have. The gleam that attracted his wife and, perhaps, other women. Be aware that in boring relationships and marriages the women are prone to romances, and it ends up mostly as a love affair or a final break-up. The fight against routine belongs to both partners. It is not like this, that your are on your head doing everything against the routine, entertaining your woman constantly. Oh no!!! She also has to fight.

The fight against routine is about that, that every free moment that you have together must be spent in the same way it was done earlier. I used to go by my girlfriend every day. When she was at work, I was at home and the other way round, but when we were both at home and theoretically we had time for each other we didn’t used it. For example, I was playing a computer game and my girl was watching a movie in the other room. The time was going by and our relationship was becoming more and more dull. We live together but separately. Then came other things and my girlfriend started to look for another man, and he who seeks shall finds. She cheated on me, and when she was leaving she said„ I left you over a year ago” adding„I was suffocating and got bored with our relationship”. AlsoTHE PREDICTABILITY is the part of routine. A man loses in his woman’s eyes if he is too predictable. I used to walk with my ex to the cinema every Wednesday for the same hour. I did not see anything wrong with that, I thought that she likes it maybe she did in the beginning, but with the time she didn’t want to go there anymore. I had to ask her, persuade her, and sometimes we even quarreled to make her go out of the house. Many times I heard her say „how predictable your are” , „it is so easy to figure you out”. Of course, the longer you are with a woman, the more she knows you. But you have to be a mystery for her all the time, so she would never guess what you do at a given moment. The bigger the routine is, the more increased predictability accompanies it. The predictable guy is a boring guy. As I have written above, when a woman is bored, she looks for another guy. Be spontaneous from time to time even walking down the street, suddenly press her firmly to the wall and kiss, do it with surprise, your woman will not know what is happening. She will burst with excitement. If a woman is in a boring relationship and begins to meet with the man who becomes a mystery to her, is so spontaneous and mysterious that she will not be able to figure him out, and she will be going nuts about it and comparing you to him, then she will start cheating on you to leave you finally. He gave her admiration that you did not. It also happens that a woman has a husband who gives her a sense of security and stability, and a lover who gives her a different kind of emotions from those of her husband’s. This is how many women lives a double life for many years. She neither won’t go away from her husband because he gives her emotions that does not give her lover, nor she will leave her lover that gives her emotions that the husband does not. Yes, I know it is sick, but the women are emotional beings and we do not. If you want to change a woman’s mind, focus on her feelings. You won’t explain anything to a woman logically, you can only make things worse.

Another cause that makes a woman leave you is a TOXIC JEALOUSY. This is one of the most serious mistakes of men in relationships. You can say this is the biggest and the strongest nail in the coffin of any relationship. Jealousy is a very destructive emotion under the influence of which the guys literally lose their minds and do stupid. I will tell you a secret, which is, if you have or had an attractive woman, you will have to come to terms that you will have a competition. Jealousy comes mostly from the fact that the craving for something which is