How To Regain The Girl In Your Life From A-Z,Step by Step ebook

How To Regain The Girl In Your Life From A-Z

Step By Step.

Author:

Kubik Grzegorz

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kubik-Grzegorz/1534529260149851?ref=hl

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Number E-isbn: 978-83-943305-2-1

Translation: Anna Matuszczak

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Table of contents

Chapter I - 6 Nails in the Coffin of Your Relationship, that is What are the Most Common Mistakes Men Make While Being in a Relationship.

Chapter II - 20 Signs of the Impending End of the Relationship And the Loss of Attractiveness in the Eyes of Women.

Chapter III -How to Save a Relationship When You Suspect that Your Woman Can Meet with Someone.

Chapter IV - How to Behave During the Parting in order to Sow a Grain of Doubt in the Head of Your Ex.

Chapter V - What Did You Have from This Transaction, that is, the Pros and Cons of Your Relationship.

Chapter VI - 17 Biggest Mistakes that Men Make Just After Parting. You Must Avoid Them!!!

Chapter VII - Getting Back Your Ex - Step By Step

INTRODUCTION

If you are reading this guide, it is probable that:

In order to win your ex-girlfriend back, you will need to learn how the psyche of a woman works in specific situations. In each situation a woman behaves differently. A woman who is with a guy only 3 weeks behaves different to the one who is with her man for 3 years. A couple that lives together with her man behaves different to a couple that lives separately. A woman who lives in a happy relationship acts different to a woman who has just met “another lover”. Women are different but in particular situations acts identically. And these are the situations, which I am going to describe you step by step in this guide, so that your ex or any other woman will never surprise you.

Now you can read these words and wondering at the same time “Who is this guy who is going to give me advice”. Let me introduce myself. My name is Grzegorz Kubik. I’m a guy who, over several years, walked up to a thousand women. These were the women with whom I had a lot of dates , a lot of sex, but I have also made a bunch of mistakes that have resulted in the fact that the women simply buggered me about. With some of these women I have created short relationships, and with some even something longer. I have lived together with a few of them, and with the one of them I have almost found myself before the altar. I’m the guy who was madly in love with my ex-girlfriend whose love I tried to win back but unfortunately with a little success (to this day I remember that dry mouth as I found out that she has another man and she’s leaving), because I have made a lot of mistakes, and thus, it is better to learn from someone else’s mistakes rather than from your own, so you will never make them .

However, I am not only the guy who was losing women. I’m also the guy who was successfully winning back his former girlfriends and who was taking them away from their boyfriends.

In this guide I will show you, basing on my experience, two sides of the coin. On the one hand, you will have served on a tray what to do and what not to do to win back the girlfriend, who went away from you. All described exactly step by step, but also I will show you what the situation looks like on the opposite side, that is from the perspective guy who took or is still trying to take your woman away from you.

Some guides available on the market describe only one side of the coin, however, the matter is complicated when the woman walked away from you to another guy (And let's face it, 95% of long-term relationships, usually ends with the fact that it is a woman who goes away to another man) and then the knowledge of how to come back to your ex – girlfriend won’t be not enough, but what you will need is to know how to “win back a girlfriend who has someone else”. Since your ex is already taken, so you coming back to her will need, to put it mildly, to “take her away from” another guy who has stolen her previously from you.

I have gone through all the possible scenarios, except I wasn’t married, but the marriage is nothing but a “long – standing” relationship and it differs in anything from it, maybe, it’s just that there are some new responsibilities in the form of loans, or the children.

Perhaps, you have already tried, on your own, to make her come back to you but the more you tried, the further away she was moving from you. Do you know this feeling? I know it perfectly, because of such mistakes I lost my ex. Dear Reader, if you woman has left you, do not despair. IT JUST HAPPENS SOMETIMES. You have made some mistakes, but still there is nothing lost. If you follow my instructions and not do anything on your own, there is a very good chance that your ex will come back to you. You must only obey, because I have already cleared the way along which you are just going.

Due to my respect for you, dear reader I won't lie to You, like others in their guides that you can win back your ex in a few days or weeks. It is simply not possible. If your ex come back to you within three weeks, it means that: she just wanted to try you out, and the man she was meeting with used her and left her (It is very likely) So she wants to really come back, because she does not want to be alone, it did not work out with the guy with whom he met (turned out to be worse than you). In such situations, there is a high probability that a woman will want to come back to you, but it will be reminiscent of resuscitating a corpse. This relationship has already died, and sooner or later she will go away again. Anyway, tell it yourself what kind of situation is that when your ex comes back to you only because it did not work out with someone else? Satisfaction is when your ex, even though she met someone else, cannot withstand the very thought of you, begging you to return. Satisfaction is when your ex is now thoughts wandering around the room, looking at the white walls, or buying guides “ How to win back your man who has changed beyond recognition”. My guide is based on this conception. I am, same as you my reader, a man of honor and I wouldn’t let myself to it that my ex would only come back to me because it didn’t work out with someone else and she has no other options at the moment. No, because I am her best option and after reading this guide, you too will be the best option for the other women. This guide will give you a lot to think about relationships, women, but also life in general, which distinguishes it from other guides of this type.

This guide is divided into VII chapters:

Well, dear reader I invite you to read, after which you will gain a little bit of courage, confidence and belief in myself. I cannot promise that you will win her back in 100% because it would have lied.Women are flighty as you know, and sometimes it's hard to predict their reaction, but I can certainly promise that after reading this guide, you will look, in a different way, at women, your life, your relationship, and your ex. The knowledge I gained and tested on great deal of my ex, with whom was meeting and with whom I've formed relationships and lived and, as well as, with the ones who left me So, pull yourself together, wipe tears, and I invite you to read.

CHAPTER I

6 Nails in the Coffin of Your Relationship, that is What are the Most Common Mistakes Men Make While Being in a Relationship

Before we get into the strategy of coming back to an ex, I would like to outline the most common causes of the decay of a relationship. You need to know what mistakes not to make in the future in order not to lose the woman again. If you've been with a woman before, you must have had some value in her eyes and something to impress her. The highest value in the eyes of a woman has the man usually (but not necessarily) at the beginning of the relationship. Your relationships goes down in proportion to your value, or the other way round, the more mistakes you make, which result in losing your value in her eyes, the faster your relationship is reaching the bottom.

As you are with an attractive woman you have to get used to the fact that you will have a lot of competition. Attractive women do not give so many opportunities for guys and do not wait until the relationship entirely hits rock bottom, but much, much earlier they flush a guy down in "the toilet" like a shit. Is it that attractive women have a large choice among men, while those less attractive, not necessarily, but let's face it even they, sooner or later, you will find your substitute and they’ll will flush you down in the toilet, too. The only difference is such that the first ones will not wait until your value drops to a level equal zero, whereas the second ones will give your some chances until they’ll find your replacement. Anyway, if you don’t yourself up in time, you’ll end up on the scrap heap.

What are the most common mistakes men make, so that they lose their value in the eyes of women, and what follows that their relationship is going sharply down? So, please meet 6 main nails in the coffin of any relationship.

1.The Loss of “the Breadwinner Status”

A woman who wants to join a guy up on a permanent basis must feel the emotion security. If it is a short acquaintance, a quickie or anything else, the status of the breadwinner no longer plays such an important role. What do I mean by ”the breadwinner status”? I mean that from the ancient times, a woman was more attracted to a man who knew how to take care of her. As you perfectly know, in prehistoric times there were other dangers than now. You needed to get your food, survive a harsh winter, and, if possible, defend your woman and children from other threats. The women in those days picked the strongest males, because it made them more certain that they will survive with the children. In addition, the largest and strongest person led a group which further strengthened his position, because he was a leader, he ruled, he made decisions for the group, and everyone had to listen to him.

Nowadays, you do not run around with a spear after a mammoth to get food and possible “clothing” through which you and your family will survive the severe winter. These days, your spear for hunting is replaced with different resources and your potential to get them. What’s on my mind? If you are hungry, you won’t go hunting but you go shopping to buy some food. When the winter comes you don’t go with a spear after a bear you just go to the clothing store and buy a jacket. You no longer face the dangers such as "how to move away the tiger from the cave", but the problems, like, "how to pay the bills. It is not about the money but about the possibilities to earn them. Women are not so much crazy for money, but for the men who know how to earn them, and this is a big difference (It is obvious that there are women that see only the money, but they are in the minority). Of course, as you know money is not everything and do not make the mistake of most men who are trying to impress women only with money, because remember, that you can buy women's time, but never the feelings. If your main advantage will be only a credit card and your car keys from the latest Ferrari, then you will be only attracted to women who, sooner or later, will exploit you financially and flush your down in the toilet. As a matter of fact, I personally could not look at myself in the mirror, knowing that my woman is with me just for my money, which is the only thing what I have to offer.

As I have written before, the women are not so much into the money but into the men that can make it. The fact that you can earn some money depends on your personality traits. If you have your own company and you told about it your woman, simultaneously you sent her other messages, such as:

I could make the list much longer, but I want to give you food for thought on this issue. You do not need to have a great company like Bill Gates and earn billions like him, but it is enough that you will have a small business that will generate sufficient income to survive. Besides working full-time, unfortunately, you won't earn millions, unless you're an outstanding specialist in a niche area, which for his boss generates many millions.

As I have written previously, the money is only a means to a better life. For the money you can dress yourself, you can drink and eat, buy a car, you can have a roof over your head, and make that your children will not miss anything. However, the lack of money will kill any relationship, sooner or later, because you won’t feed your family with just love. Moreover, it is scientifically proven that even in the world of animals, the females choose the males that have a better lair.

One of my friends used to complain to me that he had a difficulty with having sex. He went through such a period that he was only interested in very quick and short acquaintances, mostly made at a club. His problem was that after going out of the club with a newly met girl, he felt that something is going wrong, the closer they were on the road to his house the colder his mistress was behaving. When they finally reached the house, she became so distant that he didn’t know what is going on. His problem was that he was very rich. Self-evidently, he earned it himself and was successful. When the girl saw the luxury car near the club, she asked many questions such as “Who are you and what do you do?” although she wasn’t interested in this subject before. And when they went into his house, she froze immediately because her priorities have changed. She didn’t want this guy for a quickie. She only wanted to strive for a relationship with him.

How is it with your woman?. If you are a permanently jobless person, who lives with the parents, because you cannot make it for a living yourself, so tell me, how do you want to start a family?, and a woman sees it, believe me. If you are with an attractive woman, there will be, very soon, someone else around her, who is going to use his charms. If he is doing better financially than you do, your woman’s focus will be soon on him. I am not saying that you should make millions of dollars, to convince yourself that your woman will never leave you, because even such an amount of money won’t guarantee that you will keep the woman with you, or that she will be more faithful , but if you are struggling financially so that you can’t afford anything, and you are still dependent on someone, or you can’t find a job because once you find it they kick you out after a few weeks, it makes your woman feel a continuous anxiety. Your woman will begin to herself questions like "is he the right man for me?", "is he going to be able to provide a future for me and my kids?", "in case of any problems, can I count on him?"

My colleague used to have a well – paid job and not missing anything. Everyone was happy and there was no quarrels in his house. But when the crisis came, he and many like him have lost their jobs. At the beginning of being unemployed everything was all right, but the longer she remained on unemployment, the sooner his savings run out and his girlfriend started to behave differently. She completely changed her attitude towards him, so that they couldn’t stand each other after three months. They were bickering every day, nothing connected them anymore and it was all about the money. While talking to her, he was complaining constantly that he has enough of her questioning him when he finds the job. Everything calmed down when he finally found the job and they got back to their previous relations. Then, during an interview he admitted that it was related to the fact that for a long time he could not find work, focusing only on the well paid jobs because his ego wouldn’t not allow him to go to work below his expectations, and he and his family were accustomed to comfort.

If you bought her time not love, and the money is the only reason she is still with you, you can forget about looking for another job for a longer period of time. When the crisis comes, she will run away leaving you on your own, but before this she might probably cheat on you. As you can see, it is not an art. to have money and women, because what you have today, can be gone tomorrow. The majority of men wants to impress a woman with their financial status and are attracted to women who only see the money. And in the moment of crisis, or illnesses such men are left in the lurch flat broke. If your ex saw in you only the money, and you want to come back to her, then you are just plain stupid. However, if you are a lazy, unemployed person who is all fingers and thumbs wondering how your woman could leave you for someone more ravished in vital issues, calling her “a bitch who is a gold - digger”, then it makes you even more stupid. As I have mentioned, the women are not into the money, but into the men who can make it. Besides, who should they fall for? For the lazy, drunken, and stinking homeless men? What does the lazy, drunken and stinking homeless man has that a woman should go crazy for him? What is the difference between a drunken homeless man from a man of success? In the approach to life and the approach to problems. When a high – flier comes across some problems on his way, such as the lack of money, he faces them and thinks how to solve them, how to get the money, how to keep it and how to support his family. In contrast, a homeless drunkard seeing a problem reaches a liter of vodka and drinks it down and basically this is what differs these two people, the qualities of character and the approach to life.

Someone who is still young and read these words can infer that he doesn’t fit the description of the breadwinner because he does not have a steady work. Well, what matters at a young age, is your potential, how promising you are. If you have plans, goals, dreams which you share with the woman and the future you look forward to, and you do not live only for fun, then she is looking at you with hope. The women at the students’ age choose e.g.: intellectuals who potentially are well prepared for the future and will be able to getthe resources in the form of better paid work, or the founding of a company. Remember that, sooner or later, you will have to demonstrate your potential. If you're talking all the time about your dreams, about your own company and the time flies and you're not doing anything in this direction, it is easy assume that you are inconsistent. If you are young, it tells a lot about you. If you are a student and you're trying to earn some extra money, so you can even afford some entertainment, then you prognosticate wellshowing thatyou are canny, rakish and self-dependent. However, when at the age of 19 you are getting a job as a waiter in a restaurant, you can earn enough money for your bachelor expenses. But, the time flies so quickly and when at the age of 30 years, you're still the same waiter, in the same restaurant and have similar earnings, and in addition you have an attractive woman, who is a manager in an international company and earns tens of thousands of dollars a month, I would give my left nut that she will dictate the conditions and there will be a serious tensions between you both. It will be, mainly, about that you simply do not fit into her world, and you will be a ball and chain for her. At every step, the contrast between you both will be so visible starting from her relatives and finishing on her parents. You were so promising, but you've wasted your potential, and she used it. She is a successful woman, and as every woman of this kind, she wants a man of success, rather than a loser. I am not saying that when you work at the kitchen sink means that you are a loser, because I believe that no work is a disgrace but only the earnings, however, I want to warn you that in her eyes and her relatives you can be regarded as a loser who once had dreams, goals, he wanted to be somebody, but did nothing in that direction. Do not watch the Hollywood movies where a simpleton whose life is a mess, competes with a handsome and a smart guy and wins the heart of a beautiful girl that the whole town slobber over. It doesn’t work this way in the real life. If the rest of your life you will spend in a bar at the kitchen sink earning money sufficient for teens, you send a message to all the attractive women that you are not ambitious, and you are stuck in a standstill, and when you are standing you are going back. She does not give you any hope, you are becoming a ball and chain, and start getting in the way, so that the woman no longer sees in you a candidate for a husband and the father of your children. Yet, it is not said that while working for alms somewhere at the kitchen sink you won't have women and you'll be doomed to handjobing until the end of you days. You will have women with their social status equal to yours, that is, which also work at the kitchen sink and do not want to reach for more out of life because they are too lazy. However, I hope that you aren't interested in such women. On the other hand, better work at a kitchen sink than none, it would be a general failure. As you'll be permanently unemployed it is only one step away from the status of homeless man and believe that even a not so pretty girl who works anywhere for the buck finds that you, simply, don’t fit her and you are a ball and chain for her.

However, if you have a woman who is a ball and chain for you, you’ll be with her because of her beauty and sex. If you are person who goes ahead without looking back, succeeding not only in the field of financial, but also in other fields, then you'll be very desirable among women. It will probably be your woman who will be jealous and will try to restrict your freedom being afraid that she may lose you. Later on, you’ll notice than you can afford more and while looking at your woman, you will conclude that she is not attracted to you anymore and it is time to break up with her and to find her younger substitute. That's what the Hollywood stars do, who know very well that they are desirable commodity on the market and know their value and so can you hear that from time to time that a star has just exchanged his wife for a better model, i.e. a younger one.

One of the important factors to win back your woman is your complete metamorphosis. You have to change in several ways, which I am going to describe in another chapter. I think that you understand, more or less, what’s going on with the breadwinner thing. The breadwinner is the person who keeps the family, it is the host. It happened that from time immemorial rests on the shoulders of a man to support a family. Although times have changed and we do not run with spears after dinosaurs, women put the trousers on and often have bigger guts than guys, the obligation still lies upon us. It used to be only the physical strength that counted a long time ago and even nowadays some women are still attracted to well-built men, but today counts really something more, namely the ability to acquire resources or the potential, which says that “this guy will succeed in life”.

2.TOXIC JEALOUSY

This is one of the most serious mistakes of men in relationships. You can say this is the biggest and the strongest nail in the coffin of any relationship. Jealousy is a very destructive emotion under the influence of which the guys literally lose their minds and do stupid things. I will tell you a secret, which is, if you have or had an attractive woman, you will have to come to terms that you will have a competition. Jealousy comes mostly from the fact that the craving for something which is unavailable, rare or even “risky” is in human nature. According to psychological studies, the jealousy is based on the law of “inaccessibility”. If you notice that around your woman are beginning to appear some other men, then you will start to feel a slight jealousy and the lesser your self-esteem and confidence is, and you are not the best choice for her, the stronger the jealousy becomes, until it leads into madness. How many stupid things was done by the men who were overjealous. My friend was willing to beat up anyone who only dared to turn around and look at his woman’s ass. Such a jealousy is one of the main reasons that relationship disintegrate and that the women cheat on. The women who live in relationships full of jealousy begin to suffocate having enough of continuous control, the screams and quarrels. I know, from my own experience, that the women in relationships filled with sick jealousy, sooner or later, give away just to take a breath. If you used to be jealous of your “ex” and you were texting her millions of times with the questions such as “where are you now?, with whom?, what are you doing?”, or worse, you were forbidding her everything, you should know that it was the nail in the coffin in which your relationship would, sooner or later, be buried. Remember: when a woman wants to cheat, she will find a way to do it, a pathological jealousy won’t make her faithful, and on the contrary morbid jealousy will be nothing short of a fire under "your nest of love." I remember dating a girl whose boyfriend was even jealous of her brother and father, as you can conclude their relationship ended quite quickly.

Jealousy comes, as I have written before, with low self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, you will be jealous of "what you may lose". Men that are attractive to women have high self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, you must be jealous, and in the eyes of women your value will decrease. If you want to win your woman back, then you must first win back yourself, your pride, your dignity, your honor, your confidence, and your value as the man. If you don’t do it, your woman, in 95%, won’t come back to you, as for the rest 5 % she may come back, but you will be even more torn asunder emotionally. A little bit of jealousy in a relationship is even desirable, but only the little bit, because when at the very thought of losing your partner you have cold shivers and you start to go crazy, then “the little bit” has just got out of control

3.ROUTINE

Another proverbial "nail" in the coffin, which is or was your relationship is routine. Routine mostly appears in long-standing relationships. It is as if you ate every day your favorite pizza. At the beginning it is „mouth-watering” for you. However, the more often you eat this, the less tastier it becomes, because you can’t still eat the same thing, can you?. Just as it is with music, which at the beginning you liked and listened to it all the time, but after playing it on and on you can hardly bear hearing it again. The same story is with your work. If you keep going to repeat the same things, you could not stand it. What, in your opinion, are the songs that the singers just hate to perform? The songs that became hits and which they are forced to perform constantly at the concerts for many years. They simply hate to do it because with the time it is becoming extremely boring. The same is with a relationship where at the beginning you were using a lot of your creativity and you were doing your best to diversify it in many ways, but the more you saw each other, your dates became less sophisticated. At the beginning your sex was a world championship at which you were going through all that the Kama Sutra has to offer, but as the time went by the sex became rarer and less spontaneous. The woman as an emotional being has to feel. If she only feel one and the same emotion, she is getting bored with it. When a woman gets bored, she starts to look for somebody else. Not immediately, but she begins to turn away her "radars" from you, directing them towards the other guy. The routine can be connected with the man losing his life. What do I mean? Well, I went through this and so many of many do it now that they put a woman on a pedestal like a goddess. She is the whole world. A man can abandon his friends, his passion, and any hobby only to hang out with his lady as often as possible. You perfectly know how it was. At first, the woman likes it because she has the man only for herself, but in the long run he simply becomes boring. I