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Calmness For Beginners, Step By Step To Find Inner Balance Through Relaxation And Habits:
Your Personal Guide For Ways To Achieve Inner Peace
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Calmness: Find inner balance through relaxation and habits
The inner balance
Stress and the physical consequences
Stress and the psychological consequences
The connection between body and mind
How inner balance shows itself in everyday life
What causes the inner balance to falter?
The external factors change
Finding out unconscious thought patterns
Obstructive thoughts: Inability
Hindering Thoughts: Perfectionism
Obstructive thoughts: Boundlessness
Obstructive thoughts: Showing commitment
Obstructive thoughts: Self-doubt
Converting obstructive thoughts
Integrating new habits into everyday life
Accepting a new habit
Application of different methods
Methods for a stronger inner balance: Relaxation techniques
Progressive muscle relaxation
Showing humour and rediscovering your own laughter
Methods for a stronger inner balance: Reflection
Finding acceptance and perceiving the feedback
Practice a positive attitude - Look at things from a different angle
Abandoning self-pity and the role of victim
Keep a stress log
Gratitude and pleasure
Methods for a stronger inner balance: Everyday structures
The word "must" and its relatives
Integrating breaks into everyday life
Goals and Tasks
Breaking down stuck patterns of thinking
Maintaining inner balance is not always easy and yet so desirable. Because who wouldn't want a deeply relaxed inner posture, even if the milk flocculates in the morning, the track is once again overcrowded and the to-do list becomes longer and longer instead of shorter. You cannot change these external stress factors directly through inner balance, because some situations or circumstances cannot be changed for the better overnight. But you can change your attitude towards these factors and still make a big change in your everyday life possible.
Imagine what it would be like if the meter-long queue at the checkout didn't put you under pure stress anymore or if the next traffic jam didn't let the adrenaline rise in you? Inner balance is not about suppressing negative emotions about these events - that would be highly unhealthy - but rather about changing the way they are evaluated. In the future you will no longer sit behind the wheel in a traffic jam, angry and scolding, but use this opportunity to listen to the radio play you have started, to call your sister or to sing along loudly to your favourite songs.
Of course, there are many other ways to express inner balance. The closer we are to ourselves, i.e. more attentive to our needs and less guided by the outside world, the more relaxation we can experience. That includes "no." To learn to say, to re-evaluate circumstances and to find out what you really want regardless of external influences. In this book you will learn how inner balance in everyday life can look like and how you can find your centre! I hope you enjoy reading, learning and trying it out!
An advantage of inner balance is obvious: We experience our everyday life more relaxed and can deal better with stressful situations. We feel this in more optimism and a generally better mood in everyday life. By changing the assessment of stressful situations, our thoughts about these situations change, which in turn affects our emotional world. The result is that you are more emotionally stable and happier all around through inner balance.
Consequences of prolonged stress on the psychological level can be depression or burnout, for example. But it is not on the psychological level that something changes through inner stability, but also on the physical level. In stressful situations, or situations that we perceive as stress and that we evaluate as negative, our blood pressure rises and adrenaline is released. This may be advantageous in dangerous situations, as it allows us to better prepare for a possible escape or defense - our system is then on "alert". You can imagine that everyday physical processes come to a standstill, because the potential danger and survival of these is naturally in the foreground. Permanent stress is a considerable physical strain that can lead to various diseases of the cardiovascular system and the gastrointestinal tract.
Through inner balance you manage to be psychologically and physically healthier in the long run, to feel more happiness in everyday life and to concentrate better on your own needs. The perception of one's own needs is a step towards a stronger inner balance and in most cases this improves not only the relationship to ourselves, but also the relationship to our fellow human beings.
What are the advantages of inner balance?
- They feel more happiness in everyday life.
- You know your needs and can vouch for them.
- You have a healthier relationship with yourself and your fellow human beings.
- They are mentally and physically protected from stress-related illnesses.
- You're in a generally better mood.
- You will learn to change or re-evaluate situations in your favour.
These are just a few examples, of course, and you will probably discover many more individual advantages of inner balance in the course of this book and while learning inner balance.
Dissatisfaction is probably the opposite of inner balance. But why are we unhappy? For example, when our expectations of certain situations or people are not met or we cannot meet our own expectations. These unfulfilled expectations are the expression of an imbalance between the actual state and the desired state. How is this target state defined? Through our desires and ideas, which we in turn determine on a mental level. Both conscious and unconscious thought patterns play a role in shaping our expectations. Perhaps in a situation with unfulfilled expectations you perceive your thoughts less strongly than your dissatisfaction expressed through emotions. We are often unaware that we shape our emotions through our thoughts. But it's not that far-fetched, because a messed up meeting can cause different people to get very different ratings. Now for the positive news: We can shape our thoughts and thus also influence our emotions.
Applied to inner balance, this means that as soon as we provide for relaxed and balanced thoughts, this will be reflected in our emotions. Dissatisfaction is a momentary negative emotion that is given a place in our lives to varying degrees. By the way, this dissatisfaction is neither negative nor positive in itself, we only evaluate it negatively. How about, as a first step towards more inner balance, seeing this dissatisfaction as what it actually is: an indicator of a momentary imbalance.
In this way we have the opportunity to change our lives, for the better! This dissatisfaction is a great motivator to finally break down old structures and break new ground, to welcome personal development into one's own life. Let us now take a look at what arises in the event of long-term dissatisfaction: stress! From the outset, a distinction must be made between distress and eustress. Distress is negative stress and eustress is positive stress. How does this distinction arise? Through your assessment of the stress factor!