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When we think of someone being shy, we may think of a child who is hiding behind theleg of her mother because she fears strangers. Shyness was once considered to be anasset for little girls as well as women because it was associated with modesty. I canremember my daughter hiding behind my leg when she was a little girl and thinking thatit was so cute. I never saw shyness as an impediment and, like many other adults, foundthis type of behavior very “cute.”Shyness is not cute. To the contrary, it can cause you all sorts of problems in life. Peoplewho are shy are usually unable to express their feelings and have a much more difficulttime when it comes to building relationships. My daughter, for example, found itdifficult to make friends as she got older and to talk to strangers at parties. While peoplefound her to be cute as a child as she hid behind my leg, they found her to be aloof andunfriendly as she blossomed into adulthood.
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Table of Contents
Discover Your Inner Confidence to Overcome Shyness
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 - Why Are We Shy? 3
Chapter 2 - When Shyness Can Be A Problem 7
Chapter 3 - Discovering The Inner You 10
Chapter 4 - Shyness In Business 13
Chapter 5 - Shyness In Social Situations 17
Chapter 6 - Using The Internet To Overcome Shyness 19
Chapter 7 - Taking A Step Towards Joining Groups 22
Chapter 8 - Taking A Class On Public Speaking 23
Chapter 9 - Do You Need Counselling? 24
Chapter 10 - How To Remain Free From Being Shy 26
Chapter 1 - Why Are We Shy?
When we think of someone being shy, we may think of a child who is hiding behind the
leg of her mother because she fears strangers. Shyness was once considered to be an
asset for little girls as well as women because it was associated with modesty. I can
remember my daughter hiding behind my leg when she was a little girl and thinking that
it was so cute. I never saw shyness as an impediment and, like many other adults, found
this type of behavior very “cute.”
Shyness is not cute. To the contrary, it can cause you all sorts of problems in life. People
who are shy are usually unable to express their feelings and have a much more difficult
time when it comes to building relationships. My daughter, for example, found it
difficult to make friends as she got older and to talk to strangers at parties. While people
found her to be cute as a child as she hid behind my leg, they found her to be aloof and
unfriendly as she blossomed into adulthood.
Before we can overcome shyness, we have to figure out why we are shy. There is no
easy answer to this question. Some people appear to be born shy and have a hard time
coming out of their shell to others. Other people seem to be more outgoing. I have done
a bit of research into what makes someone shy and found that two things often figure into
shyness - birth order as well as a lower self esteem. It is also important to realize that
shyness is not always so apparent. Some people, in an effort to not seem so shy will go
off in the opposite direction and appear to be very outgoing when they are struggling, on
the inside, to overcome this affliction. I can relate to this as I am one of those types of
individuals. Others often find me to be outgoing, but in reality, I get a sick feeling in my
stomach when I have to meet new people or exert myself in social situations.
Being shy does not mean that someone has a low self esteem, but it can be an indication
that their self esteem is a bit more fragile than someone who is not shy and is not, as a
result, self conscious. Through my research, I have found that those who are shy tend to
be very sensitive individuals who often make the mistake of thinking that everyone’s
attention is focused on them. They are afraid to make a mistake, say something silly or
do something that will cause others to notice them. They would rather fade into the
background than call attention to themselves.
Birth order also seems to play a roll in shyness. It is very often that the person who is shy
has older siblings that are very outgoing. I have often felt that this was the reason why
my daughter is so shy and the polar opposite of her older brother, who seems to be
comfortable wherever he happens to be and has no problem at all with shyness. Many
people who are shy are this way because they live in the shadow of an older sibling who
is anything but shy.
There is also the female factor. Although I tried to raise my boy and girl the same way
with the same set of values, I found that they are as different as chalk and cheese. I knew
that despite what others may think about the “cute little shy girl” that shyness would not
be an asset for my daughter. However, not everyone thinks this way. Some people still
think that it is cute for little girls to be shy - that it somehow makes them more ladylike.
This is not a plus when that little girl, as a woman, has to compete with other women as
well as men for jobs and types of recognition in life. There are still people who are under
the impression that shyness is a desirable quality in little girls. Because of this, they may
be more inclined not to concern themselves with shyness in their daughters as much as
they do with their sons.
Low self esteem is usually at the root of all shyness. A shy individual is usually afraid to
say something or do something that will bring attention to them because they fear
embarrassment. Many people are under the impression that a low self esteem is the result
of bullying, a poor childhood or some sort of deficit that a child has to endure. This is not
always the case. A child who is coddled by his or her parents can also develop a low self
esteem. Those who are overprotected may not feel as though they are capable of taking
care of themselves in the world and develop somewhat of a low sense of self worth.
There are many reasons why people develop a low sense of self esteem and varying
degrees of self esteem issues as well. Self confidence is something that can be built up in
a variety of different ways to increase self worth and also allow someone to be less self
conscious and shy.
Many people are aware of the fact that they are shy and avoid being in the limelight as
much as possible. Some people who are shy may over compensate for the fact that they
feel shy and go overboard in trying to draw attention to themselves. For the most part,
shyness is based upon a fear of rejection, most often due to a low self esteem. It
manifests itself differently with every individual. Some people need only have their idea
rejected once before they develop a low sense of self worth and an inferiority complex.
Others can take a lot of rejection before it starts to affect them negatively.
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