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How to Make Your Relationship Work
Best Romance and Relationship Tips
Linda Sg. James
Copyright Linda Sg. James 2017
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Also By Linda Sg. James:
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WHAT GIRLS LIKE IN GUYS
THINGS GUYS SHOULD NOT DO IN A RELATIONSHIP
HOW YOUR WOMAN WANTS YOU TO TREAT HER
CHERISH AND APPRECIATE HER LOOK TO HELP BOOST HER MORALE
SIGNS THAT YOUR WOMAN IS CHEATING ON YOU
THE MAJOR THINGS TO DO AFTER ENGAGEMENT IN PREPARATION FOR THE WEDDING
HOW A LADY CAN SOLIDIFY HER RELATIONSHIP OR SUSTAIN HER MARIAGE
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
A relationship ought to be enjoyed and not endured. The only sure way to enjoy your relationship or marriage is to look inward always instead of playing the blame game when anything goes wrong in your relationship. It is good to always be prepared to take responsibility for your actions and inactions in a relationship.
You have to be prepared to meet the obligations inherent in a relationship just as you expect same from your partner. In fact, you have to be there always especially when it matters most.
There is also the need to establish trust in a relationship and this is only possible if you trust your partner who is most likely to reciprocate the trust.
It is also important that you always brainstorm and share ideas with your partner as it will greatly enhance and deepen the bond between you.
Never underestimate the importance of communication in your relationship. If you fail to discuss with your partner appropriately, you will give a room to the monster “assumption” which had successfully seen to the end of millions of wonderful relationships or marriages worldwide. In fact, always guide against this monster as you strive to maintain a healthy relationship.
Also, watch out for hawks as they will be waiting for the opportunity to prey on your peaceful and flourishing relationship or marriage. So therefore, never give the opportunity to third parties to interfere in your relationship no matter the situation. With Patience and self control both of you can work over any situation and be glad afterwards.
Almost all relationships starts rosy, with a perfect setting, and the mood is always magnificent, great and perfect. In fact, you feel like you have found your soul mate and that nothing can ever go wrong. At this stage, you always want to talk to or spend time with your partner and you feel it’s just the two of you in a paradise.
My dear you have to be prepared for the days ahead because nature must teach you the basic lessons that all those who engage in a romantic relationship must have to learn. You have to learn and acquire the values of the four pillars of a successful relationship that is trust, understanding, tolerance and love. The tenets of these four pillars of a successful relationship are explained below:
Trust: This entails having confidence in relating with your partner without seeing the need to hide anything from him/her. This is very vital and must be cultivated at the beginning of any romantic relationship if that relationship must see the light of the day.
Understanding: This entails the ability to reconcile all differences and create a neutral ground of operation in a relationship.
Tolerance: This entails cultivating the ability to endure your partner’s shortcomings and bearing one another’s burden.
Love: In simple terms, this entails the ability to trust, understand, and tolerate your partner. It is the cornerstone of all successful relationships. In fact, you must show great affection and care to your partner always.
There are four basic stages that any relationship must go through before it can become stable and be able to withstand any eventualities. These stages are discussed below:
This is the first and most blissful stage in a relationship. It is usually filled with affection, bonding, and expression of love.
At this point, nature makes you idolize your potential partner and see her as your perfect match or your better half. He or she is appears perfect, cool, and specially made for you.
In fact, you constantly experience the emotions of joy and excitement in the presence of your new found partner or even in a mere thought of the relationship. The novelty of a new love leads you to think about your partner day and night, imagining all the possibilities of how this person can fulfill your deepest desires and you therefore want to spend every moment of every day with him/her.
As the relationship matures, you begin to be more thoughtful and less impulsive and being more careful and if possible critical about your choice of commitments to the relationship.
At this point, the lover birds get to know each other better. It is a good period but you have to be careful not to be depressed about the changes you will notice in your knowledge of your partner. It is normal and it helps you to get to know him/her better and for real. This is because when you initially fell in love, you did not care to see your partner's flaws. But as the months pass by, both of you now know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner's commitment towards the relationship and it is in this stage that people get to know the real deal.
It is also very important that the element of trust be exercised by both partners at this point. This is because any cover up or lies told at this point will come back to haunt you and if care is not taking, it may ruin the relationship or marriage.
Hey, no one is saying you have to get into trouble with your partner at this stage at all. But it is a natural cause that must take place in the sense that disagreement will always occur just so that you get to learn how to manage such situations in a relationship or marriage.
The way and manner you handle the situations that comes up at this stage will either make or break the relationship. So, you have to be mature in your approach, level headed, and calm.
You also need to quickly learn the value of the phrase “I’m sorry” at this point. This implies that you should be humble enough to admit your mistakes and sincerely say you are sorry. This will go a long way to prevent avoidable disagreements. Take note that the lack of this diplomatic antidote had lead to the destruction of many supposedly healthy relationships, homes, marriages, and businesses globally.
The two partners in the relationship must do their part to make the relationship work otherwise it will crash if only one person is putting in most of the efforts and commitments.
Any relationship that survived the conflict stage and enter into the stability stage will most likely lead to a lasting healthy relationship and marriage.
I therefore dare to say congratulation for coming thus far in your relationships. You are now on the path to a blissful, fruitful, and long lasting relationship.
In fact, at this stage, love is the supreme feeling and there is no longer fear about losing your partner any more.
Even though each stage of a relationship is wrought with mistakes, the most important thing is that the partners must commit to working through these mistakes and build a successful and sustainable relationship together.
Efforts most also be made to resolve all your differences within and never make the mistake of bringing in a third party to help settle your differences. And if this must happen, then it has to be a professional or your trusted spiritual leader.
Communication and hence sharing of ideas is a vital and important component of any relationship. It is like grease that lubricates components of a machine which are in contact to avoid friction and wear. So, you must make good use of this important tool to keep your relationship interesting and hence prevent boredom.
Proper communication between a girl and her man or a woman and her husband can ensure peace and sustenance of such a relationship.
One of the methods of effective communication in a relationship is texting. The following are 10 texting tips that I will like to share with you.
Take good advantage of early morning texting because it is a great means of connecting emotionally early on for the day. It also helps to set a good fortune for both of you as you put smiles on each other’s faces.
Do not just cut and paste text messages from test message Applications or from the internet and send to your love ones. It will be highly disappointing when they find out. So, take time and create your own custom message that will reflect your feeling and emotion accurately.
Do not text a girl you have known for a short period of time when you are depressed, drunk or not happy. Doing that at such instances can lead to a very wrong representation of your feelings and thoughts and might hurt her feelings to the extent that no amount of apology may be enough to win back her confidence.
Long and boring texts may not be a good idea. Rather, make it short, emotional and memorable.
Do not send more than two unanswered texts at a stretch as that might reveal some level of insecurity. Instead, give time to reply since she might probably not be with her phone or may not be in the mode of replying you at the time you sent the text.
Always end your texts messages in an unpredictable manner and avoid a particular pattern. This calls for uniqueness in your communication with her through text message.
Do not ever complain if she does not text you for some time or promptly reply your texts as that will show that you are desperate and craving for too much attention.
Silence and tension building can sometimes be a great technique but be creative in using this trick. If properly utilized, it creates a sense of freshness and desire and hence effective communication (prompt reply).
If the person did not reply right away do not get offended or say something needy or even send more texts as he or she might just want to see your reaction to such situations.